Tips for Keeping Your Relationship Alive After a Baby
How to Keep Your Relationship Alive
Nothing will change your relationship like the addition of a baby. For years you dreamed of having a family, and now it’s finally real. While this is the most exciting time of your life, let’s be real it is also going to be the big adjustment for you and your husband.
Now instead of roses, what you really long for is a hot shower, and fifteen minutes to yourself!!!
Here are some tips to keep the passion alive in your relationship after the birth of your child.
Life after baby
Make time for each other! As simple as it may sound, alone time is vital during this high stress time. Have someone watch the baby so you and your husband can grab dinner or a cup of coffee. It doesn’t have to be all night, but make sure to carve out some ALONE time.
Ask your husband for what you need. With my 1st child I just assumed that Justin would know what I needed help with (laundry, dishes….) Well guess what?? Men cannot read our minds as much as we would like for them to. Your husband will be happy to help you out, but for the sake of your hormones and emotions tell him exactly what you would like him to do, instead of being disappointed that he didn’t do something.
Speaking of hormones expect these! I once cried because Justin walked in from work, and took the trash out. Yes, I said took the trash out. Looking back I can laugh, but at the time it hurt my feelings because he had been gone all day, and the first thing he did when he got home was leave again. Prepare your man that you may not be your “normal” self, and hopefully he will be patient with you, because you will probably be extra sensitive.
Sex. Okay I said it. We have to go here because after having a baby you don’t feel sexy. Most nights I was covered in spit up, changing diapers, and depending on dry shampoo. Are you catching my drift? Even if I wanted to have sex, I was just plain out too tired.
Get creative in this department. If you are extra sleepy at night, try to make time for it in the afternoon. Whatever you need to do to make it happen, do it! Your relationship and your husband will thank you for this. This keeps your marriage alive and passionate, so shave those legs and remember how you made time for it in the past. Intimacy is key when trying to keep a healthy marriage.
Ladies, keep your head up. This stressful time will not last forever! We will soon get our groove and our bodies back lol…or at least that is what I’m telling myself.
What are some ways you kept the passion ALIVE??